diplomacy or straight forwardness

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  Vega

  My first hand opinion on this topic is that it depends on situation and party to which you are dealing with. Speaking straight to your customers can offend him so it's always adviced you use diplomacy with them. The same is applicable for bilateral relations between countries. On the other side if I have to talk to my friend, i won't mind talking straight and sharp.
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  Prasad Ajinkya

  Durga,
  IMO, as long as you are not negatively impacting anyone, it might make more sense to be diplomatic when the situation demands it.
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  Kaustubh Katdare

  Always be diplomatic. Straightforwardness ain't so cool.
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  durga ch

  @ Vega, Kidakaka and Biggie.
  I agree.
  Personally, this is what happens, when I start sensing a diplomatic approach towards me, I defaultly categorize the person to be manipulative. This infact affects the whole point of getting into discussion as I tend to stop heeding to them.
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  gohm

  In logic straight forward honest is the best, however people are far from logical and have emotions so in the "real world" diplomacy is usually the better sollution.
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  vibhor_one

  No don't agree with him because everything last with truth that always triumphs...straight forwardness is the best methodgy to tackle anyone...but needs courage and confidence in oneself's
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  rajivtiwari

  I would rather be flexible than limit my approaches in some boundary by making always straight forward attitude
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  Ashraf HZ

  vibhor_one

  No don't agree with him because everything last with truth that always triumphs...straight forwardness is the best methodgy to tackle anyone...but needs courage and confidence in oneself's

  Assuming of course, what you say IS the real truth, rather what you think it is 😉
  
  Diplomacy does help with perspectives. Understanding how the other person thinks and why would help diffuse/fix the situation. One's assumptions can change, given more information.
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  Prasad Ajinkya

  Guys,
  If you want to see how diplomacy and straightforwardness are in real life, do read "The Fountainhead" by Ayn Rand. The story is about a very straight forward architect called Roark, and a manipulative diplomat by the name of Toohey.
  
  It takes guts and a sense of foolhardiness to be that straight forward.
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  madugula

  hi friends.. to be diplomatic or to be straight forward in nature depends on the situation and persons we are dealing with. i think if the situation is sensitive, we need to opt for diplomacy only. people think more emotionally rather than logically. i am not gonna blame it. but i think its general human psychology. so in such a situation, being straight forward may hurt their feelings..
  so, in my opinion both are necessary to maintain good relations with anyone, provided that you know when and where to use them.. 😀
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  Ashraf HZ

  I know a couple of guys who think they are straight forward and blunt, but in actual fact, they just talk before they think. Its easier that way, I suppose? 😉
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  Sandrat

  ash

  I know a couple of guys who think they are straight forward and blunt, but in actual fact, they just talk before they think. Its easier that way, I suppose? 😉

  Ah, yes. I also know people who think they are straight forward and blunt because they consciously don't consider the other party's view or position. As if insisting you are right and the other person is wrong solves everything.😒
  
  But I think a combination of both straight-forwardness and diplomacy is the best if you are unsure about the situation. As many people said, it all depends on the situation, but being too diplomatic or too straight-forward could be rude, or misunderstood. I personally am usually very diplomatic, which is troublesome if I'm debating with very straight forward and undiplomatic people.
  
  And thanks for the book recommendatin Kidakaka. I might look into it this summer:smile:
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  durga ch

  that is actually correct, rudeness and straightforwardness have thin line of difference.
  But again, its agin how the opposite party sees it as!
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  csiscool

  strait forwardness is best...
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  optimystix

  being an honest diplomat is difficult but the best way to proceed in life. Straight forwardness as in being blunt , as many people have said is not so good. there's always a way to react to things. Thus diplomatic is the key but without any kind of corruption(u may call that wrongful manipulation)