How To Have Faith In Yourself?
It's a common advise to have a faith in yourself. But having a faith in oneself is one of the most difficult and misunderstood things. So, how can one really go about having a faith in him/her self?
I've been thinking about it for the past few minutes and decided to put my thoughts in this post. I think there are few realizations one must make to restore faith in yourself.
1. You can't change your past:
Unless some CEan invents a time machine, none of us will be able to change our past. You didn't pay attention in school, didn't score good marks, did not participate in extra-curricular activities, killed time, didn't make good friends, developed bad habits and whatever that you sometimes think you shouldn't have done. Why not accept the fact that what's been done is done and there's no way it can be changed?
Well, the point is obvious but not many accept this simple fact - past cannot be changed. There are people who perpetually keep blaming their past for their present situation. This blaming doesn't do any good except ruining your present which in turn ruins your immediate future. Think about it.
What's been done, is done. Nothing can be done about it. Accept it.
2. Making the most out of present.
Having realized that nothing can be done about the past, it's time to understand that we cannot let the past take control of our present. Lot of people physically exist in present but their minds are always in the past. A serious mistake, if you ask me.
It's common sense. You must learn to extract the MOST out of your present. Look, what you do today is going to be responsible for your future. Believing in yourself is mostly about living in present, thinking in present and keeping an eye on the future.
You lose believe in yourself when you think you aren't in control of anything - the things you cannot change [past]. But we always forget that we CAN BE in control of our future - and it's determined by our actions today. If you repeat this thought in your mind every-day; it will restore faith in yourself.
Let me explain with an example: If you're an engineering student worried about getting a job; think about what's the cause of your worries. Is it the fear that you'll get rejected because of your poor marks in engineering exams? Or something else? Then think what can you do at present to fix that problem? Can you master your engineering knowledge over the next two months if you start preparing today? Challenge yourself! Then, just do it!
3. The fact that you are 'nobody' yet.
I don't mean to disrespect you but the point is, you shouldn't worry about failure. Probably, the only people know you are your neighbors & relatives who are very limited in numbers. So if you fail in anything - it'll be known to only the limited people around you. Why make them more important than they really are? Don't let their words disturb you.
The biggest criticism you should take seriously should come from within you. Your inner criticism should act as a fire in steam engine - to power you and not to depress you. Have some realistic expectations from yourself and do something about it. If you fail, let the critic inside you tell you what you did wrong.
Don't be afraid of failures. People will say good/bad things no matter what you do. I personally have experienced this throughout my career as an entrepreneur. The people who once blamed you will applaud you for your achievements. Yes, it's hard, but it has to be accepted.
Let the fact "You're Nobody" act as a rocket launcher for you to be "The One".
4. Have a goal:
I don't have enough words to describe how important it is to have a goal for yourself in restoring your faith. Your goal can be anything - but you MUST put a strict time-limit to it. Once that is done, let all the negative and positive powers drive you towards it. You will feel fantastic about yourself. You won't be lazy anymore. You will love yourself and start believing in yourself.
For example, your goal could be to top the next college exam or crack the next company visiting your campus for recruitment. Now, assuming you've 15 days time limit to achieve the goal; you can setup a strict schedule for yourself. First thing is figuring out what's needed and making a plan without wasting lot of time on it. Second thing is to sacrifice the things you love doing the most like "wasting time on Facebook". Third thing is to start acting on your plan WITHOUT thinking about the outcome. Your focus should be on preparation and the plan you've set for yourself. Miss all those sporting events, miss all those friend parties and everything. Enjoy working on your plan, enjoy what you're doing and do your best making the most out of present.
99% of the times, the outcome will be pleasantly surprising.
5. You're awesome:
No matter how you've done so far in life, you're still awesome and better than thousands of others. It's a fact and you know it. You just did not pay attention to it. All you have to do is focus on becoming more awesome.
The crux of all of the above is that you should not waste your time in focusing on things you can't control or are negative. Having a faith in yourself is all about choice.
PS: I've just posted a draft without proof-reading it before posting. Ignore the mistakes, please. 😀
I've been thinking about it for the past few minutes and decided to put my thoughts in this post. I think there are few realizations one must make to restore faith in yourself.
1. You can't change your past:
Unless some CEan invents a time machine, none of us will be able to change our past. You didn't pay attention in school, didn't score good marks, did not participate in extra-curricular activities, killed time, didn't make good friends, developed bad habits and whatever that you sometimes think you shouldn't have done. Why not accept the fact that what's been done is done and there's no way it can be changed?
Well, the point is obvious but not many accept this simple fact - past cannot be changed. There are people who perpetually keep blaming their past for their present situation. This blaming doesn't do any good except ruining your present which in turn ruins your immediate future. Think about it.
What's been done, is done. Nothing can be done about it. Accept it.
2. Making the most out of present.
Having realized that nothing can be done about the past, it's time to understand that we cannot let the past take control of our present. Lot of people physically exist in present but their minds are always in the past. A serious mistake, if you ask me.
It's common sense. You must learn to extract the MOST out of your present. Look, what you do today is going to be responsible for your future. Believing in yourself is mostly about living in present, thinking in present and keeping an eye on the future.
You lose believe in yourself when you think you aren't in control of anything - the things you cannot change [past]. But we always forget that we CAN BE in control of our future - and it's determined by our actions today. If you repeat this thought in your mind every-day; it will restore faith in yourself.
Let me explain with an example: If you're an engineering student worried about getting a job; think about what's the cause of your worries. Is it the fear that you'll get rejected because of your poor marks in engineering exams? Or something else? Then think what can you do at present to fix that problem? Can you master your engineering knowledge over the next two months if you start preparing today? Challenge yourself! Then, just do it!
3. The fact that you are 'nobody' yet.
I don't mean to disrespect you but the point is, you shouldn't worry about failure. Probably, the only people know you are your neighbors & relatives who are very limited in numbers. So if you fail in anything - it'll be known to only the limited people around you. Why make them more important than they really are? Don't let their words disturb you.
The biggest criticism you should take seriously should come from within you. Your inner criticism should act as a fire in steam engine - to power you and not to depress you. Have some realistic expectations from yourself and do something about it. If you fail, let the critic inside you tell you what you did wrong.
Don't be afraid of failures. People will say good/bad things no matter what you do. I personally have experienced this throughout my career as an entrepreneur. The people who once blamed you will applaud you for your achievements. Yes, it's hard, but it has to be accepted.
Let the fact "You're Nobody" act as a rocket launcher for you to be "The One".
4. Have a goal:
I don't have enough words to describe how important it is to have a goal for yourself in restoring your faith. Your goal can be anything - but you MUST put a strict time-limit to it. Once that is done, let all the negative and positive powers drive you towards it. You will feel fantastic about yourself. You won't be lazy anymore. You will love yourself and start believing in yourself.
For example, your goal could be to top the next college exam or crack the next company visiting your campus for recruitment. Now, assuming you've 15 days time limit to achieve the goal; you can setup a strict schedule for yourself. First thing is figuring out what's needed and making a plan without wasting lot of time on it. Second thing is to sacrifice the things you love doing the most like "wasting time on Facebook". Third thing is to start acting on your plan WITHOUT thinking about the outcome. Your focus should be on preparation and the plan you've set for yourself. Miss all those sporting events, miss all those friend parties and everything. Enjoy working on your plan, enjoy what you're doing and do your best making the most out of present.
99% of the times, the outcome will be pleasantly surprising.
5. You're awesome:
No matter how you've done so far in life, you're still awesome and better than thousands of others. It's a fact and you know it. You just did not pay attention to it. All you have to do is focus on becoming more awesome.
The crux of all of the above is that you should not waste your time in focusing on things you can't control or are negative. Having a faith in yourself is all about choice.
PS: I've just posted a draft without proof-reading it before posting. Ignore the mistakes, please. 😀
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